When a family breaks down, it isn't just the couple at the centre of the split who feels the impact. Grandparents are often cut off from grandchildren they love, through no wish of their own. If that's happened to you, here's what the law in England actually allows you to do.
You have no automatic legal right
This surprises many people. In England and Wales, grandparents have no automatic right to see their grandchildren. Unlike parents with parental responsibility, you cannot simply apply to the court for a contact order. In most cases, you first need to ask the court for permission to make an application. This permission is called "leave."
Leave is often granted by the courts as the family courts recognise the important role grandparents play in children's lives, and the starting point is that contact with grandparents is generally in a child's best interests.
Start without the courts if you possibly can
Before considering legal action, try to resolve things directly with the parents. If that isn't possible, mediation is strongly recommended and in most cases legally required before you can make a court application. You will need to attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM) first, though there are exceptions to this, including cases involving domestic violence.
Court should always be a last resort. It is slow, expensive, and can make family relationships worse. Many grandparents who take a calm, patient approach while keeping lines of communication open do eventually restore contact without needing to go to court.
What happens if you do go to court?
First you will have a hearing where the court will decide whether you give you permission to make an application. At this hearing the court will consider your existing relationship with your grandchild, the nature of the application you want to make, and whether the application might itself disrupt or harm the child's life. The court will also ask the parents whether they agree to your application.
If permission is granted, you can then apply for a full Child Arrangements Order. The court will apply the welfare checklist under the Children Act 1989, with the child's best interests as the paramount consideration. In practice, courts will order some form of contact in the majority of cases where grandparents have had a meaningful relationship with the child.
What if you want more than just contact?
In more serious situations, for example where both parents are unable to care for a child, grandparents can apply for a Special Guardianship Order or even a Live With Order. These go much further than contact arrangements and can give grandparents parental responsibility, allowing them to make key decisions about the child's education, health, and welfare.
A note on recent changes
The law in this area has been shifting. The government has acknowledged the importance of grandparent relationships, and there is growing pressure on parents to honour those relationships as part of any parenting arrangements made after separation. If you are navigating this situation, getting legal advice sooner rather than later gives you the best chance of a positive outcome.
Our family law team advises grandparents across the region on their options. Get in touch for a confidential conversation.